5 Things I Refuse to Apologize For As a Toddler Mom

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Being the parent of a toddler is both equally amazing as it is overwhelming. Here’s what I’ve learned that I refuse to apologize for as the parent of a wild toddler.

The toddler years are unlike any other time during your child’s life. There are some incredibly amazing moments that you just want to freeze in time, while there are others so infuriating that you swear something happens to the human brain that allows you to forget them. Otherwise, parents would never have more than one child willingly.

5 Things I Refuse to Apologize For As a Toddler Mom

Thinking back to Branden’s toddler years, I know he gave me a run for my money. Now with Blake, I’m not sure if there is more of a struggle because my schedule has been more full time than part time as a work from home mom, or just if she’s more challenging overall. But wow. Our days are chaotic and more than not, I feel burnt out on motherhood.

The experience has taught me just to say “eff it” a whole lot, try my very best to go with the flow (when I’m naturally not a go with the flow kinda gal), and try to learn from her cues as much as possible. These are the things that I refuse to apologize for as a toddler mom and I don’t think you should either.

1. The mess.

Life in general is messy with a toddler.

Every time I put toys away, they are thrown across the floor 5 minutes later. It’s not worth of it spending precious time cleaning and re-cleaning that could be spent on other things.

2. The endless tantrums.

They suck. They really, really suck. But I stopped apologizing for them. Blake’s tantrums are not a reflection of our parenting. End of story.

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3. The need for some order amongst the chaos.

This is typically where my mom burnout comes from (and if you’re looking for my tips to avoid mom burnout, you can find them here. ) I will admit. However, I’m the kind of person who thrives whenever there is organization in the picture and if theres none, well, that’s when my anxiety kinda goes wild.

I won’t apologize for needing a little teeny tiny crevice of structure, and probably rocking the boat to get that. Even if it causes some stress and arguments between said toddler and I, structure needs to be a part of out life.

4. The accidental slip of a bad word.

Okay, so I let them slip from time to time and so does Chris, which means that Blake will hear and repeat them. When this happens she almost always uses the word correctly and who can really listen to a toddler curse without getting a good giggle out of it. You’re welcome.

5. How our child acts in public.

Generally speaking with Blake, she is actually much more well behaved outside of the house than she is inside the house. Like huge differences. Honestly, there are days where Oliver moves from room to room just to escape her wrath. But whenever there are moments of “bad” toddler behavior in public, I’m not apologizing for it.

These little ones of our are just learning about the world and how to express themselves. They are learning how to behave when they are out in public by being in public. It has nothing to do with poor parenting.