What I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Became a Mom

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Before I became a mom, there is one thing I wish that someone shared with me.

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What I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Became a Mom

There are so many things that we are told by experienced mothers around us whenever we find out we’re pregnant for the first time.

Enjoy all the moments.

Take pictures of everything.

Sleep when the baby sleeps.

Babywear everywhere – it’s SO much easier.

The lists can go on and on. And, so much of the advice is amazing and spot on. I’ve embraced so much of the wonderful nuggets of wisdom that have been passed down to me by my mom and sister especially and how they have always been there over the years whenever I called with a burning emergency questions. You need those people in your life to guide you – or else your pediatrician is going to get very sick of hearing from you.

But motherhood, I’ve learned over the years, is a lot more than just keeping the kids safe and alive everyday. There are so many daily pressures placed on us to help raise the next generation and make sure that our little ones grow into full fledged, function adults making a positive impact on society. These pressures can be so intense that we become so consumed with them, losing ourselves.

So yes, while I receive so much advice that I am more grateful for than I can even really put into words, I do wish that someone said to me at my baby shower, “hey mama, don’t forget about you.”

Boom.

I’ve opened up in the past about my personal self care journey and how finally thinking about myself truly changed my life, but I want to make sure that every mom who is reading this hears my message loud and clear: don’t lose yourself in it all, you are important, too.

We’re taught that motherhood has to be the most selfless journey of our life and I don’t think there is really anything accurate about that concept at all. Yes, there are moments in motherhood where we need to 100% forget about ourselves and put our families first. Yes, I agree with that whole-heartedly. But it can’t be that way all day, everyday.

We all have moments where we need breaks from our kids. This is not a bad thing. Breaks allow you to reconnect with yourself and regroup and then you can come back to your babies, refreshed and ready for whenever comes next. It’s okay to have hot mess mom moments, believe me – I’ve been there.

But, I’ve found that sweet spot to be whenever we’re able to recognize that we need to take 5 before we lose it – if that isn’t self care then I don’t know what is.