6 Pieces of Advice First Time Moms Need to Hear

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Being a new mom is tough. Here are 6 pieces of advice that all new moms need to hear, but people might not tell you to your face.

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You see this picture above? The one where I appear to have it all together? Truth: I don’t. Not one bit. And that chubby little cherub I’m holding on my hip is our second baby. I feel like I learned so many different things with each child and navigating the day to day as a mom is challenging and it never really gets easier, you just learn to have a better grasp on balancing things. I’ve learned that each stage is different and as soon as you feel like you have a good flow of your day to day, that everything shifts. Roll with the punches and take my advice mama, you will feel a lot less burnt out if you do.

6 Pieces of Advice First Time Moms Need to Hear

As I’ve gotten older, there are a few pieces of advice that I wished someone pulled me aside and whispered in my ear. I hope that by sharing you will walk away feeling more empowered as a mom.

1. You’re not supermom, so don’t try to be.

I wrote a post about a year ago about the constant striving that our society does to be Super Mom. But you know what? You are a super mom just by being a good mom. If you jump on the hamster wheel of trying to attain this level of perfection, especially as a new mama whenever everything is so new and overwhelming – you will experience mom burnout right from the start. Please, please, please don’t do that to yourself. Instead, understand that there will be a learning curve. You will knock some things right out of the park immediately and struggle in other areas. That is A-Okay! Don’t be so hard on yourself, mama.

2. Take the help. No really. TAKE THE HELP.

We raised our babies without having much help at all. With Branden we were far from family in DC at the beginning and then NYC before we finally moved closer. With Blake, we are close, but still not minutes away from family. Take my advice when I say that if help is offered to you, just take it. It doesn’t mean that you can’t do it all. Taking necessary help is seriously a huge part of self-care.

3. Buy crappy underwear for you first weeks postpartum.

This is always my biggest advice to new moms and something that I did with both kids. Buy yucky looking but oh-so-comfortable granny panties to pack in your hospital delivery bag or to have at home waiting for you (ya know…for whenever the hospital underwear runs out). These will be comfy to lounge in, but also pieces you can throw away whenever you are a few weeks out and ready to be back into your regular underwear.

4. Find your crew.

There is nothing better than having mom friends. Here’s a great article with tips for finding mom support groups. These are your people and they will be there with you thick and thin through really hard moments. Your mom crew is seriously crucial to becoming a mama.

5. Let your partner take over from time to time.

I will never forget waking up the first official morning of being home from the hospital with Blake. Chris let me sleep in while he handled Branden and the baby and whenever I finally woke from the best sleep ever, I walked into the living room to the sweetest sight of them all hanging out together. Let them take the wheel, girl, because sometimes you just need then to.

6. Say no.

I can’t stress this anymore. Learn the power of the word “no” especially in new motherhood and it will save you from exhaustion, mom burnout, unwanted visitors, and so many more things in the new stages of motherhood. Stand. Up. For. Yourself.